Seeing with God's Eyes: A Christmas Call to Discernment

The air crackles with expectation this time of year. Carols fill the spaces between hurried preparations, and the promise of family gatherings hangs heavy. Yet, the reality can be far more complex than sugar plums and twinkling lights. Often, the familiar faces we gather with bring not just joy, but also a history of friction, misunderstanding, and unresolved hurts. We find ourselves bracing for the inevitable—the critical comments, the dismissive gestures, the awkward silences.

It’s easy to approach these interactions with a critical eye, to judge based on past experiences and preconceived notions. As John Bevere observes in the video below, “anybody can look at somebody with a critical eye… all he needs two eyes and a carnal brain.” But that’s not the perspective we’re called to cultivate as Latter-day Saints.

The Restoration calls us to something higher: to seek the divine lens through which God perceives His children. Think of Nephi’s experience in 1 Nephi 11:27, where he pleaded with his brethren to have their “eyes opened… that they may see.” It wasn’t a request for better eyesight, but for spiritual clarity—the ability to understand God’s purpose and see beyond the veil of earthly perspectives. Similarly, Isaiah prophesied of a time when the Lord would pour out his spirit upon the house of Israel, “that they may see with mine eyes, and know that I am the Lord” (Isaiah 29:13).

This isn’t merely about tolerating difficult behavior; it's about recognizing the eternal potential within each individual. It's about remembering that every soul is a child of God, striving, often imperfectly, to fulfill their divine purpose. President Howard W. Hunter taught, “There is a divine potential within each of us. It is our duty to help others realize it.” How can we possibly help them realize that potential if our vision is clouded by past grievances?

The call isn’t to ignore past hurts or condone harmful actions. It’s to choose to focus on the possibility of growth, of repentance, of change. It’s to actively seek the Spirit’s guidance in how to interact with those around us—to “speak into their future,” as John Bevere suggests. This requires humility, patience, and a willingness to set aside our own judgments and embrace a more compassionate understanding.

Consider the parable of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11-32). The father didn't dwell on the son's past mistakes; he rejoiced at his return and welcomed him with open arms. That is the model of divine love and acceptance we are to emulate.

As we gather with our families this Christmas season, let us earnestly pray for the gift of discernment. Let us ask the Lord to grant us His eyes to see what He sees in those around us—their potential, their struggles, their inherent worth. Let us choose to speak words of encouragement, of hope, and of love, and let us strive to be instruments of His peace.

What specific scriptures have resonated with you in understanding difficult relationships? Share your insights and experiences in the comments below. Let's build each other up as we navigate these challenging, yet sacred, moments.