The Peacemaker's Paradox: Seeking Validation from Above

We’ve all been there. Standing in a contentious space, feeling the pressure to smooth things over, to be the ‘nice’ person. The temptation to compromise values for the sake of peace is a powerful one, especially when the alternative feels like a relentless battle. But as we know from the scriptures – from Isaiah’s prophecies to the Lord’s teachings in 3 Nephi – true peace isn’t the absence of conflict; it's the presence of righteousness. It’s a peace that transcends the superficial and touches the very soul.

The recent discourse from Joy Salt & Light (see below) resonated profoundly with this struggle. It's easy to mistake appeasement for peacemaking. It's easy to mistake silence for strength. To be a peacemaker isn't to be a doormat, allowing oneself to be trampled upon in the name of harmony. It's a far more demanding calling, requiring discernment, unwavering faith, and a profound connection to the Spirit. As Herb Workshop wisely observed, “Being a peacemaker does not mean you allow others to disrespect you, trample you, or your self-worth in the name of keeping peace.”

President Oaks’s BYU devotional, referenced in the video, serves as a stark reminder: we cannot be deceived. The world is increasingly turbulent, and the voices of contention are amplified. Maintaining that vital connection to the Spirit—seeking that unwavering guidance—is not merely a suggestion; it is a necessity for navigating these challenging times. How do we navigate situations where relationships are strained, where those around us are resistant to change, and build walls against the love we offer? The answer, as always, lies in turning to the source of all peace: our Heavenly Father and our Savior, Jesus Christ.

The unsettling truth, and the core of the paradox, is this: in striving to be a peacemaker aligned with divine will, we may find ourselves labeled *not* as a peacemaker by those around us. Standing up for truth, maintaining silence when necessary, radiating joy in the midst of adversity—these actions can be misinterpreted as aggression, stubbornness, or even foolishness. The world’s definition of peace is often a fragile construct, easily shattered by the demands of righteousness.

This is where our validation must come from. As Latter-day Saints, we understand the importance of seeking approval from the Lord, not from the fleeting opinions of the world. D&C 121:7-8 instructs us: “Doth mine arm not already stretch out for their salvation? Yea, for the salvation of their souls. Yea, I say, if ye seeketh the face of God, then ye have sought the face of Jesus Christ.” Our worth is not determined by the accolades of man, but by the unwavering love and approval of our Father in Heaven.

The path of a peacemaker, a true disciple of Christ, is rarely easy. It demands courage, humility, and a steadfast commitment to truth, even when it’s unpopular. It requires us to constantly examine our own hearts, to ensure that we are acting in accordance with the Spirit, and to trust that the Lord will guide our steps, even when we cannot see the path ahead. Remember the iron rod in Lehi’s dream (1 Nephi 11:21-23)? It's not a passive tool; it requires diligent clinging, a conscious effort to remain connected to the source of truth and righteousness.

Let us strive to be peacemakers not in the world’s definition, but in God’s. Let us find our validation in Him, and let our actions be a testament to His love and truth.